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From Temporary "In Love" to Lasting Love…

Mar 22, 2024

In a world where love stories are often depicted as whirlwind romances, filled with passion and intense emotions, it's easy to get swept away by the notion of falling "in love." We're bombarded with images of couples lost in the throes of infatuation, where every moment feels like a fairytale. But what happens when the initial spark fades, and reality sets in? This is where the journey from temporary "in love" to real, lasting love truly begins.


Real love is not a fleeting feeling or a temporary high; it's a profound connection that withstands the test of time. It's built on a foundation of trust, respect, and genuine care for one another. Unlike the temporary euphoria of infatuation, real love requires an act of will and discipline. It demands patience, understanding, and a willingness to grow both individually and as a couple. “With all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace." Ephesians 4:2-3



Too often, we mistake the excitement of falling "in love" for the depth and stability of real love. We chase after the thrill of new relationships, seeking out the next dopamine rush that comes with infatuation. But as exhilarating as those initial stages may be, they're not sustainable in the long run. Real love transcends the fleeting excitement of romance; it's a journey that evolves over time.


One of the fundamental truths about real love is that it's reciprocal. It's not just about what we can get from our partner, but what we can give in return. It's about showing up for each other, even when the initial spark has dimmed. Real love requires empathy, compassion, and the willingness to put our partner's needs before our own.


At its core, real love recognizes that our basic need is not just to fall in love, but to be genuinely loved by another. It's about feeling valued, understood, and accepted for who we truly are. This kind of love goes beyond surface-level attraction; it delves into the depths of our souls, embracing both our strengths and our vulnerabilities.


In the journey from temporary "in love" to real love, personal growth plays a crucial role. It requires us to confront our own insecurities, fears, and past traumas. It challenges us to communicate openly and honestly with our partner, even when it's uncomfortable. And it encourages us to continually strive to be the best versions of ourselves, both for our own sake and for the sake of our relationship.


Ultimately, real love is a choice—a choice to commit, to forgive, and to keep showing up, day after day, even when the going gets tough. It's not always easy, and it certainly isn't always glamorous. But it's in the messy, imperfect moments that real love truly shines.


So, let's embrace the journey from temporary "in love" to real, lasting love. Let's recognize that true love isn't just a fleeting feeling—it's a lifelong commitment to growth, connection, and mutual respect. And let's remember that our greatest fulfillment comes not from falling in love, but from being genuinely loved by another


What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate. Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.Matthew 19:6



Perfectly Imperfect,

Sam & Ron




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