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Why Feeling Loved Matters Most (Guys pay attention!)

Apr 09, 2024

Love isn't just about logic or words; it's about emotions, connection, and understanding. So, buckle up as we explore why it's irrelevant for a woman to "logically know" she's loved by her husband if she doesn't feel it in her heart.

In many marriages, we often hear phrases like "I told her I love her" or "I provide for her, isn't that enough?" But here's the thing: love isn't a checklist, and it certainly isn't a one-size-fits-all equation. While logical gestures and expressions of love are important, they pale in comparison to the power of feeling loved and valued by your partner.

Imagine this scenario, Ron (husband) and I (Sam/wife) will be the "models" :).  Ron you may think you're showing love by working hard, providing for your family, and saying "I love you" every day. Logically, you might believe that should be enough for Sam to feel loved. However, if Sam doesn't feel emotionally connected to you, if she doesn't feel appreciated, cherished, and understood, then all those logical gestures become irrelevant.

Feeling loved goes beyond the rational mind; it's about the emotional bond between two people. It's about the little things: the hugs, the smiles, the shared laughter, the heartfelt conversations, and the acts of kindness that speak volumes louder than words. When Sam feels loved, truly loved, she feels secure, valued, and cherished in the relationship.

On the flip side, if Sam doesn't feel loved, even if you, Ron, logically believe you're expressing love, it's as though she isn't loved at all. Emotions shape our perceptions, and if Sam's emotional needs aren't being met, it creates a void in the relationship, regardless of logical gestures.

The takeaway? Intentional steps: prioritize making each other feel loved and appreciated every single day. Communicate openly about your emotional needs, express love in ways that resonate with each other, and never underestimate the power of small, meaningful gestures.

Remember, love isn't about checking boxes or following a script; it's about genuinely connecting with your partner's heart and soul. So, let's focus less on the logic of love and more on the beautiful emotions that truly make a marriage thrive. 

Until next time, keep loving, keep connecting, and keep prioritizing each other's happiness above all else. 

Perfectly Imperfect,

Sam & Ron

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