A Whole Lotta Hanky Panky

Let’s dive into a topic that can be both a fun, and touchy (pun intended😉), intimacy in marriage. Yes, you read it right – we’re going to be talking about a whole lotta hanky panky! But don’t worry, this isn’t your grandmother’s advice column. We’re here to sprinkle some humor and practical tips on keeping that spark alive in your marriage. 

First things first, let’s debunk the myth that intimacy is all about the bedroom. Sure, that’s an important, and fun part, but it’s not the whole enchilada. Intimacy is about emotional connection, trust, and vulnerability. It’s about knowing each other deeply and still choosing to love fiercely, even when your partner leaves their socks on the floor for the umpteenth time. 

So, how do you keep the flame burning bright? Well, let’s start with communication. Ron reminded me of a time I tried to communicate by using interpretive dance…. Yeah, that didn’t end well. I don't recommend this method as a lot can get lost in translation. Instead, try actually talking to each other. Share your dreams, fears, and embarrassing childhood stories. Laugh together, cry together, and for the love of all that is holy, listen to each other! 

Next up, let’s talk about spontaneity. We take turns coming up with spontaneous moments that bring smiles to each other’s face and keep the flame burning. A lot of the time we sneak away to the beach, as that is one of our favs together, and Ron never misses a beat to make sure I have my hat and sunscreen on the trips when the sun is bright and shining, he knows how much I burn! These moments paired with those unexpected gestures keep the excitement alive. So, surprise your partner with breakfast in bed, a love note hidden in a place they are sure to find it, or an impromptu slow dance in the living room. Get creative! 

Now, let’s address the elephant in the room – sex. Yep, we said it. Sex is an important part of intimacy, but it’s not just about getting busy between the sheets. It’s about connecting on a physical level, exploring each other’s desires, and having fun! At a conference not long ago a speaker said, with her strong southern drawl, "Y'all need to have the right attitude to keep things interesting between you and your main squeeze. Y'all must keep the desire to try new things alive and not fall victims to the same 'ol same 'ol, tried-and-tested pattern." Try new things, spice it up with some role play or a sexy game, and most importantly, don’t take yourselves too seriously. Remember, laughter is the best foreplay! 

Lastly, let’s not forget about self-care. You can’t pour from an empty cup, so make sure you’re taking care of yourselves individually. Go for a solo hike, indulge in a bubble bath, or read a new fiction novel and let your imagination soar! When you feel good about yourself, you bring that positivity into your relationship. 

So, there you have it, folks – a crash course in keeping intimacy alive in marriage. Remember, it’s not about perfection, it’s about connection. So, embrace the hanky panky, laugh often, and love fiercely. And if all else fails, just dance it out – interpretive moves and all! 

Until next time, stay Anchored in Love & Guided by Faith! 

Perfectly Imperfect, 

Sam & Ron